Your most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.

I welcome the lull.

You know… the “lull.” It’s that very short reflective day or two you get between Christmas and New Year’s. So here I am, reflecting back on 2013 and considering some questions that have always intrigued me when I hit the year-end. I thought I would share them so you might ask yourself the same and see how you answer…

Question #1 – Was it worth it?

All the stress… all the hustle and bustle… all the plans, to-do lists, agendas, goals, and feelings that accompanied “I have to get this taken care of”… Was it worth it? Or… did my efforts match my goals and did I reach them with a degree of reasonableness that limited stress in a way that I could smell the roses along the way?

Question #2 – Did I accomplish what I really wanted to accomplish?

Did I attend to the things that really matter or did I spend way too much time on things that I told myself really needed to matter in the moment? My goals, dreams, and plans for 2013… did I achieve them?

Question #3 – Am I more of who I want to be today than I was at this same time last year?

I set out to be the best me in 2013. Did I do it? Am I a better “me” today than I was a year ago? Am I living out my authentic self in a way that it truly who I am and aspire to be?

Question #4 – What are the successes I enjoyed this last year?

I am proud of myself for many things. What are they? Where did I shine? Where did I find success, joy, contentment, happiness, and abundance? Where are the areas that I am proud of me?

Question #5 – What do I want of me going forward?

I fill my life with expectations. Some of those I haven’t met yet. What are they? Which ones are important going forward? Are there any that I need to let go of because they no longer are relevant or matter as much as I thought they did?

I encourage you to enjoy the lull and take the time to reflect on 2013. Too many people engage the busyness of life and never really reflect in a way that matters. And so, they end up repeating a life they really never wanted in the first place.

I know this one thing for sure: there is a life that wants to live in you. The real question is… is the life that wants to live in you the one you are really living?

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This is a fabulous, educational and inspirational day for teen girls and their moms (or guardians/grandmothers/aunts/mentors) to dream big and get the tools, plans, encouragement and inspiration to make their bright futures happen.

Also, during the Summit’s luncheon we will be awarding 4 girls the Brilliant Beautiful and Bold Role Model Award!

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Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
– Connect with her on Facebook here for her tips & inspirations.
– View her coaching packages that will empower, encourage and equip you… click here.
– Enjoy Kristi’s free downloadable ebook here or purchase her book here.
– To book Kristi as a speaker for your group or conference click here.

Sometimes, the results we get are directly related to the motivational tips or techniques our family of origin gave us.

So… in case you haven’t heard it in awhile… you are great.

Seriously.

Now, if you had any trouble stomaching that first sentence – OR – you quickly made your move to debate it, we need to chat. Because you may not know it, but  you’re performing an act of self sabotage by believing this. J

Cause I think you’re great.

Odds are, there is a voice somewhere in your head that echoes your true belief about yourself. My guess is, that voice belongs to a family member – or two, or three, or… So often, that voice binds us to something less than we were created to be. A life coach would ask you to ignore this voice.

Growing up, we all feel defined by the expectations that are put on us. Some of those are healthy and some probably aren’t. Some probably gave you motivation, while some did not. Without a doubt, some of those expectations were unspoken – you just “knew” what they were (i.e. don’t outshine your sibling, don’t let the family down, live up to the family name, etc.). The moment we took those things in and started to believe them, we began to create a life constricted by other people’s expectations. And if those expectations were negative, well… you know how that story goes.

If this is you, it’s time to change the story. It’s time to be your own success coach.

And that’s where a life coach comes in.

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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It is so easy to lose motivation in a job or career and not move forward.  The tough part is getting the results you want when that begins.

Have you ever…

• Been afraid to speak up?
• Brushed off compliments?
• Viewed yourself as not as important as others?

Congratulations! You and about every other person I have ever met have done one (or all) of those at one time or another.

Oh well. Read on to get your hands on some words of wisdom by a life coach.

While doing that socially may not be a killer, doing it in a job is. When we play small in our work we create two issues: 1) we plant a seed of doubt in others about our ability; and 2) we begin to doubt ourselves. You may not be doing it consciously, but in effect you’re indulging in self-sabotage. Play that out over time and it becomes very easy to shrink.

And shrinking sucks.

Can your job contain you?  I don’t mean that it isn’t worth your time. I mean, have you postured yourself into believing that this is as good as you can get or the best you will ever achieve? If so, I’m guessing your playing small in some area of your work.  And that kills your motivation.

Here are some words of advice from a success coach. I realize you’d have  more in the tank if you could get out of your own way and step into your full potential of what it means to be you. Maybe you’ve felt the office doubts about you… Maybe you really don’t know if you are capable of more… Maybe you settled awhile back and this job feels comfortable now.

As a life coach, I am always amazed at what happens when someone unleashes their potential. When they refuse to play small and take the risk to play big, it always seems they find a new lease on life.  It is so powerful!

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Meet Mitch.

Mitch is someone I met a long time ago, a master of self sabotage.  Mitch is addicted to struggle. Nothing is easy in his life.  Things are always complicated.  He believes that life – MUST! – be difficult in order to be lived.  Nothing is ever easy.  He says he has never had a good day.  He is addicted to feeling bad.  For him, to feel good would actually be scary.

Mitch wonders why he’s not married yet.

Hmmmm.

I won’t be calling on Mitch for motivation tips anytime soon..

If you’re like Mitch, it’s time to consult a life coach.  Is there anything more limiting to a human being than believing you have to struggle through life?  Where did we come up with that idea anyway?  Seriously… Who says life has to be a constant struggle?

I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be.  It’s the result I help lead each and every client to everyday.  It’s the job of any life coach.

To get ahead, you have to embrace getting unstuck.  The idea of struggle is exactly the opposite of the idea of motivation.  And I prefer motivation. Living the metaphor of struggle day in and day out is a recipe for misery and loneliness.  Any success coach will tell you that.

I have my own phrase for folks I encounter like this now.

They think life is a Mitch.

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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It pains me to even write the word.

Victim.

Have you ever been one?

Perhaps. And if so, I have no doubt that a flood of memories as to how and when you were came racing to mind.

And now for the tough question:  Have you ever been guilty of having a “victim mentality”?

It’s self sabotage. It’s the one thing NO ONE ever wants to admit.

And yet I see it all the time in people around me – at the store, casual friendships, and sadly, clients.

This is a tough one and I struggle to write this blog today because it is such a difficult issue. I don’t want to write off how you may have been victimized. All I want to say is that you can’t stay there.

A success coach advises you to look inside yourself and find out if you suffer from a victim mentality. Here are ways to identify a victim mentality:

• When you are the one always being wronged.
• Nothing good happens to/for you.
• If the worst is going to happen, it is going to happen to you.
• The idea of “poor me” enters your thoughts.

I learned something a long time ago from my sister, Kim and this is a lesson you might pay hundreds of dollars to your life coach in order to learn.  She was severely burned and it wasn’t her fault.  She had every right to be a victim and live that out the rest of her days. However…

The burn community doesn’t operate that way.  As I have learned from her and attending the Phoenix Society’s World Burn Congress, there are no victims.

Only survivors.

From there, it’s about moving toward that next thing.

And the next thing is “thriving.”

That’s a much better mentality, don’t you think?

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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