Move Into

Move Into a Relationship with Yourself

Your most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Move Past

Move Past The Voice of Your Family

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Move Past

Move Past the Voice of Not Being Good Enough

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Move Past

Move Past the Need to be “Perfect”

http://www.dreamstime.com/-image6112376Do you ever feel like you have to be perfect? Do you ever feel like you get that message from others?  Do you sense that you need to be perfect for… acceptance, credit, or love?  Perhaps others do not come right out and say it, but I’m guessing you have walked away with that feeling a time or two… or quite often. 

 

Think about the times you have felt that need to be perfect…

 

Perhaps you wrote something and found yourself not putting it out there because of what others might think.  After all, it wasn’t “perfect” enough.  Maybe you were having family or friends over to your home and you tried to make sure your house looked perfect.  It could have been an attempt to make something, plan something, decorate something…  You planned and planned – and then planned some more – just to make sure whatever it was had the perfect seal of approval.


Perfect may even be an idea you have found yourself saying on occasion.  Have you ever said, “I just want this to be perfect” for a wedding… a dinner party… an open house… an appointment… Christmas Day… a family vacation?  The list goes on and on.   

 

I want you to be aware what is REALLY going on for you.  What’s driving your need to be perfect?  I promise you this: it is not serving you. You are only setting yourself up to fail.  Perfection is not possible.

 

Here’s the truth about perfection:

 

Trying to be perfect is about trying to protect yourself.  It is an inner belief that says, “If I am perfect then you can’t hurt me.  No one will be disappointed in me.  No one cannot like me.”  This isn’t necessarily a conscious thought.  It is your fear that is driving you. 

 

The next time you find yourself trying to “be perfect” ask yourself these questions…

 

What is your fear?  You won’t be loved?  You won’t be good enough?  Others won’t think of you the way you want?

 

Whatever it is, it isn’t reality.  When you appease your fear, you give your power away.  Who cares what people think?  Can you really control that anyway? 

 

Besides… the idea of perfect has been flawed in the first place.  Somewhere along the line, we developed the notion that perfection means “without flaw.”  I prefer a better definition of perfect, one that is more true to the original intent of the word.  I prefer to define perfect as the idea of “moving toward completion.”  Yeah… I like that much better.

 

In what ways are you moving toward completion today?  I can promise you that thinking in this way in far more rewarding, more satisfying and less burdensome.  No longer is the emphasis on what others think… the emphasis is now on you and your journey toward that which brings you joy.

 

And… along the way, your old need to be “perfect” lessens, as does that feeling you get from others.  You find power in moving toward completion, not living a life without flaw.

In the end, keep your power.  Believe in you.  Know that you ARE good enough.  And walk the journey without fear…

 

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Move Past

Move Past The Voice of Culture

We all have voices from our culture in our heads, but are those voices saying something true? Maybe it is time to motivate yourself to take an honest listen at what they are saying…

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Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Move Past

Move Past: Feeling the Need to Be Perfect

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Move Beyond

Hearing Voices In Your Head… Move Beyond, Part III

 “I will never be good enough.”

 

As a life coach, if I could have a dollar for every time I have heard that phrase come from someone’s mouth… well… let’s just say the stack of dollars would be extremely high.

 

And sad.  It’s time to move beyond.

 

The voice of toxic shame within people is the singular biggest destructive force I know. I remember listening to Dr. David Augsburger discuss this in great detail at a conference once and I was amazed to hear the proliferation of the idea in his practice.

 

I fully understand now his point from my own experience in working with clients. The only good thing to do with toxic shame is to treat it like the farmers do when things are old, tired and broken…

 

Take it out back and shoot it.

 

Toxic shame has no place in your life. It does not serve you. It does not help you, aid you, assist you or get you to where you want to go. It has one job and one job only: to derail you from your goals and dreams.

 

Toxic shame is the idea that you are fundamentally flawed. It is the thing inside you that whispers “You aren’t worth it” or “Who could ever love you?” or “You will never be good enough.” Toxic shame is a lie within you that builds and builds and builds until it feels like truth.

 

Here’s the REAL truth: You ARE worth it. You ARE lovable. You ARE plenty good enough.

 

It is important to understand the difference between the kind of shame I am talking about and the idea of ‘guilt.’  Shame is the force that attempts to destroy your sense of self. Guilt is the radar that lets you know if you’re “off” on something you should have done differently.

 

For example, guilt is when you order that old-fashioned glazed donut to go with your morning Starbucks and you can feel that tinge inside of you – the tinge that knows you are about to do something you know you shouldn’t (“But it tastes SOOOOO good…”). Shame is the whisper going off inside you at that same moment that says, “Go ahead and eat it. It’s not like anyone thinks you are attractive anyway. You might as well continue on your fat journey…”

 

 Can you tell the difference?

 

Successful people refuse to allow toxic shame to dominate their lives. Instead, they replace the voice of shame with a voice of self-appreciation. While it can be a difficult task, I know you can do it. Honestly, if there was ever an issue that was worth hiring a life coach to help you through, this would be the big one. And the reason is pretty simple…

 

You are worth it.

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Move Beyond

Hearing Voices in Your Head… Move Beyond, Part I

 You ever had someone’s voice stuck inside your head?  You hear it and you can imagine right where you were standing the moment you heard it.  Sometimes, that voice can ring loud and letting go of it can be a little difficult.

 

Like when it involves your family.

 

I hope that your family gave you good things to hear growing up and I hope those tracks play repeatedly in your brain.  If so, consider yourself grateful.  More often than not, I coach clients who didn’t get to hear those types of things. The words they have heard from their family have caused damage and even derailed pieces of their lives for years.

 

Whose voice is in your head? (Joan Sotkin has a great article on this… http://prosperityplace.com/listening-to-your-inner-voice/).

 

Our goal is to live from our own voice… our own space… our own understanding of ourselves. However… if too many other voices occupy space in our brain, our own can get drowned out very quickly. It is hard to hold onto yourself when you are holding onto everyone’s else opinions of you. Even beyond that, it is hard to find your voice when you have practiced listening to someone else’s for so long.

 

I love my mom. She’s great. But we are definitely different. As I became my own woman, I found myself often at odds with her voice in my head. Her convictions weren’t necessarily mine. Her beliefs weren’t necessarily mine. Her views on who a woman should be in this world weren’t necessarily mine. And while neither of our views are better than the others’, I found myself often conflicted over my own thoughts of myself and who I was supposed to be. Was my mom right? Am I right? How do I know the difference?

 

Finding your voice amidst a sea of voices that cascade on you every day may be the greatest awareness task you will face. I am thankful that I was successful in finding my voice within me. In my role as a success coach, I find that this is often one of the first tasks that I work on with clients. I help them become aware of what they are thinking and help them identify whose voice that really is. If it is authentically their own, we can celebrate and move on. If it isn’t… then some work needs to be done.

 

Track yourself today. When those thoughts pop up that get you derailed or send you down the slippery staircase, ask yourself: “Is the voice I am hearing that echoes this thought really mine?”

 

If the answer is “Yes”, embrace it. If the answer is “No”, acknowledge it, set it on the shelf, and move on.

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Move Toward

Move Toward the Life You Love with Your Family

Motivation

Sometimes, the results we get are directly related to the motivational tips or techniques our family of origin gave us.

So… in case you haven’t heard it in awhile… you are great.

Seriously.

Now, if you had any trouble stomaching that first sentence – OR – you quickly made your move to debate it, we need to chat. Because you may not know it, but  you’re performing an act of self sabotage by believing this. J

Cause I think you’re great.

Odds are, there is a voice somewhere in your head that echoes your true belief about yourself. My guess is, that voice belongs to a family member – or two, or three, or… So often, that voice binds us to something less than we were created to be. A life coach would ask you to ignore this voice.

Growing up, we all feel defined by the expectations that are put on us. Some of those are healthy and some probably aren’t. Some probably gave you motivation, while some did not. Without a doubt, some of those expectations were unspoken – you just “knew” what they were (i.e. don’t outshine your sibling, don’t let the family down, live up to the family name, etc.). The moment we took those things in and started to believe them, we began to create a life constricted by other people’s expectations. And if those expectations were negative, well… you know how that story goes.

If this is you, it’s time to change the story. It’s time to be your own success coach.

And that’s where a life coach comes in.

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Move Forward

Move Forward in Your Job

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It is so easy to lose motivation in a job or career and not move forward.  The tough part is getting the results you want when that begins.

Have you ever…

  • Been afraid to speak up?
  • Brushed off compliments?
  • Viewed yourself as not as important as others?

Congratulations! You and about every other person I have ever met have done one (or all) of those at one time or another.

Oh well. Read on to get your hands on some words of wisdom by a life coach.

While doing that socially may not be a killer, doing it in a job is. When we play small in our work we create two issues: 1) we plant a seed of doubt in others about our ability; and 2) we begin to doubt ourselves. You may not be doing it consciously, but in effect you’re indulging in self-sabotage. Play that out over time and it becomes very easy to shrink.

And shrinking sucks.

Can your job contain you?  I don’t mean that it isn’t worth your time. I mean, have you postured yourself into believing that this is as good as you can get or the best you will ever achieve? If so, I’m guessing your playing small in some area of your work.  And that kills your motivation.

Here are some words of advice from a success coach. I realize you’d have  more in the tank if you could get out of your own way and step into your full potential of what it means to be you. Maybe you’ve felt the office doubts about you… Maybe you really don’t know if you are capable of more… Maybe you settled awhile back and this job feels comfortable now.

As a life coach, I am always amazed at what happens when someone unleashes their potential. When they refuse to play small and take the risk to play big, it always seems they find a new lease on life.  It is so powerful!

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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