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Move Past The Voice of Your Family

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Move Past the Voice of Not Being Good Enough

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Move Past the Need to be “Perfect”

http://www.dreamstime.com/-image6112376Do you ever feel like you have to be perfect? Do you ever feel like you get that message from others?  Do you sense that you need to be perfect for… acceptance, credit, or love?  Perhaps others do not come right out and say it, but I’m guessing you have walked away with that feeling a time or two… or quite often. 

 

Think about the times you have felt that need to be perfect…

 

Perhaps you wrote something and found yourself not putting it out there because of what others might think.  After all, it wasn’t “perfect” enough.  Maybe you were having family or friends over to your home and you tried to make sure your house looked perfect.  It could have been an attempt to make something, plan something, decorate something…  You planned and planned – and then planned some more – just to make sure whatever it was had the perfect seal of approval.


Perfect may even be an idea you have found yourself saying on occasion.  Have you ever said, “I just want this to be perfect” for a wedding… a dinner party… an open house… an appointment… Christmas Day… a family vacation?  The list goes on and on.   

 

I want you to be aware what is REALLY going on for you.  What’s driving your need to be perfect?  I promise you this: it is not serving you. You are only setting yourself up to fail.  Perfection is not possible.

 

Here’s the truth about perfection:

 

Trying to be perfect is about trying to protect yourself.  It is an inner belief that says, “If I am perfect then you can’t hurt me.  No one will be disappointed in me.  No one cannot like me.”  This isn’t necessarily a conscious thought.  It is your fear that is driving you. 

 

The next time you find yourself trying to “be perfect” ask yourself these questions…

 

What is your fear?  You won’t be loved?  You won’t be good enough?  Others won’t think of you the way you want?

 

Whatever it is, it isn’t reality.  When you appease your fear, you give your power away.  Who cares what people think?  Can you really control that anyway? 

 

Besides… the idea of perfect has been flawed in the first place.  Somewhere along the line, we developed the notion that perfection means “without flaw.”  I prefer a better definition of perfect, one that is more true to the original intent of the word.  I prefer to define perfect as the idea of “moving toward completion.”  Yeah… I like that much better.

 

In what ways are you moving toward completion today?  I can promise you that thinking in this way in far more rewarding, more satisfying and less burdensome.  No longer is the emphasis on what others think… the emphasis is now on you and your journey toward that which brings you joy.

 

And… along the way, your old need to be “perfect” lessens, as does that feeling you get from others.  You find power in moving toward completion, not living a life without flaw.

In the end, keep your power.  Believe in you.  Know that you ARE good enough.  And walk the journey without fear…

 

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Move Past The Voice of Culture

We all have voices from our culture in our heads, but are those voices saying something true? Maybe it is time to motivate yourself to take an honest listen at what they are saying…

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Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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5 Questions to Consider Before Moving Past 2013

P1010275I welcome the lull.

 

You know… the “lull.” It’s that very short reflective day or two you get between Christmas and New Year’s. So here I am, reflecting back on 2013 and considering some questions that have always intrigued me when I hit the year-end. I thought I would share them so you might ask yourself the same and see how you answer…

 

Question #1 – Was it worth it?

 

All the stress… all the hustle and bustle… all the plans, to-do lists, agendas, goals, and feelings that accompanied “I have to get this taken care of”… Was it worth it? Or… did my efforts match my goals and did I reach them with a degree of reasonableness that limited stress in a way that I could smell the roses along the way?

 

Question #2 – Did I accomplish what I really wanted to accomplish?

 

Did I attend to the things that really matter or did I spend way too much time on things that I told myself really needed to matter in the moment? My goals, dreams, and plans for 2013… did I achieve them?

 

Question #3 – Am I more of who I want to be today than I was at this same time last year?

 

I set out to be the best me in 2013. Did I do it? Am I a better “me” today than I was a year ago? Am I living out my authentic self in a way that it truly who I am and aspire to be?

 

Question #4 – What are the successes I enjoyed this last year?

 

I am proud of myself for many things. What are they? Where did I shine? Where did I find success, joy, contentment, happiness, and abundance? Where are the areas that I am proud of me?

 

Question #5 – What do I want of me going forward?

 

I fill my life with expectations. Some of those I haven’t met yet. What are they? Which ones are important going forward? Are there any that I need to let go of because they no longer are relevant or matter as much as I thought they did?

 

 

I encourage you to enjoy the lull and take the time to reflect on 2013. Too many people engage the busyness of life and never really reflect in a way that matters. And so, they end up repeating a life they really never wanted in the first place.

 

I know this one thing for sure: there is a life that wants to live in you. The real question is… is the life that wants to live in you the one you are really living?

 

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Move Past: Feeling the Need to Be Perfect

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Move Past the Opposite of Motivation

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Meet Mitch.

Mitch is someone I met a long time ago, a master of self sabotage.  Mitch is addicted to struggle. Nothing is easy in his life.  Things are always complicated.  He believes that life – MUST! – be difficult in order to be lived.  Nothing is ever easy.  He says he has never had a good day.  He is addicted to feeling bad.  For him, to feel good would actually be scary.

Mitch wonders why he’s not married yet.

Hmmmm.

I won’t be calling on Mitch for motivation tips anytime soon..

If you’re like Mitch, it’s time to consult a life coach.  Is there anything more limiting to a human being than believing you have to struggle through life?  Where did we come up with that idea anyway?  Seriously… Who says life has to be a constant struggle?

I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be.  It’s the result I help lead each and every client to everyday.  It’s the job of any life coach.

To get ahead, you have to embrace getting unstuck.  The idea of struggle is exactly the opposite of the idea of motivation.  And I prefer motivation. Living the metaphor of struggle day in and day out is a recipe for misery and loneliness.  Any success coach will tell you that.

I have my own phrase for folks I encounter like this now.

They think life is a Mitch.

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Move Past Being Your Own Worst Enemy

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There was a time when my son was into Super Heroes. His first idol was Buzz Light Year (can you tell what era he grew up in?). After he “matured” (his words) he moved on to the Justice League and the like. I quickly learned at the dinner table that the Justice League had its evil counterparts as well. Apparently, this was called “Bizzaro world” in which things were backward.

We adults partake in Bizzaro world on occasion as we indulge in a little self sabotage. Our “heroes” there are called “Criticism” and “Blame.” They are the opposite of our true Super Heroes, “Freedom” and “Peace.”

Here’s a little free advice from a life coach: ask yourself the following questions. Have you ever been critical of yourself?

Yeah… I already knew the answer to that. Me too.

Maybe I should ask, have you ever held onto a criticism of yourself for days, weeks, months? I hesitate to use “years” because I can feel the sting already.

Don’t you hate it when you are your own worst enemy?

Nothing works against us more than holding onto criticism and blame – and regularly participating in it; self sabotage is never the answer.

Let’s just call this out, okay? Here is exactly what criticism and blame do for us:

  • They ruin intimacy in relationships.
  • They remind us daily of the fear we have inside.
  • They push people away.
  • They reveal the insecurity we have about ourselves.
  • They lead us to results we say we don’t want.

That’s quite a list. I’m inspired now!

Not.

Can we be honest and say that when we are critical of ourselves it is a sign that we are angry about something – but haven’t put words to it yet? That’s what needs to be addressed, rather than the parade of criticism and blame in which we tend to participate.

Here’s what your life coach would encourage you to do. Call them for what they are: bad habits that can become addictive if we aren’t careful.

Let me challenge you on this one. I want you to take one single day where you stop the criticism and blame game. Just one day. See what happens. I dare say that if you can’t do it, it is high time to find a life coach.

If you can, blessings on you. How did it make you feel?

It’s about time we stop living in Bizzaro world, it’s time to be our own success coach and get back to the REAL Super Heroes in our lives.

“To infinity and BEYOND!”

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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– Enjoy Kristi’s free downloadable ebook here or purchase her book here.
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