Move Ahead

Move Ahead in Relating to Difficult People

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What’s Holding You Back? 3 Tips To Moving Ahead

P1010254“What’s holding you back?”

It’s probably a pretty good time to ask that question, now that the holidays have come and gone… the time stamp on New Year’s resolutions being fulfilled has passed… and life has gone back to “normal” — that is, the normal one has come to expect in life.

But is ‘normal’ the life you really want to live?

I love motivated people. They are fresh, vibrant, excited… and yet, I know motivation isn’t enough. There is strategy, information, education, planning, assessment… all of these go into making people a success. Motivation is the energy behind it all, but all of those elements are needed.

But even motivated people can get derailed from time to time. There are things in life — pressures, stress, relationships, money, to name a few — that seemingly hold us back from where we really want to go. They grab hold of us and we often feel like we can’t shake them. It’s like the line from the the old U2 song, “You’re stuck in a moment and you can’t get out of it.”

So… what’s holding you back? I am willing to guess that something immediately came to mind. If that’s the case, odds are it has been chewing on you for awhile. There are an infinite amount of things that hold folks back. However, I find that for many, moving past previous failures or traumas are right at the top of the list. It’s like the event that took place was too crushing… too devastating… too demoralizing to overcome. And so, those folks stay stuck living life backward hoping it will change their future.

From my work with lots of people, here are three tips to moving past previous failures:

1) Get help. That sounds simple, but so many people choose to hang on to the shame or injustice that occurred because they can’t bear the thought of letting someone else in on their private self-sabotage. And honestly, that’s exactly what hanging onto the past negatively is — self-sabotage. The truth is, there are wonderful people who are willing to help — professionals, clergy, good friends. In my own work with clients, I consider it an absolute privilege to guide them past that which holds them back. There’s no judgment, no shame… just a wonderful opportunity to step into someone’s story and move them ahead to the life they really want.

2) Squeeze the joy out of every moment. When people look backward and are fixated on the “thing” that happened way back when, they get caught missing out on the present. A day-by-day, moment-to-moment tip is to intentionally tell yourself “I am going to squeeze as much joy out of this next _______________.” (fill in the blank… endeavor, meeting, homework assignment, household chore, conflict, etc.). As you go through your day repeating your mantra, you will find yourself focusing more on the present. When you focus more on the present you focus less on the past, because now your attention is devoted to finding joy in whatever situation or scenario you encounter. Just a simple reframe of your mindset toward joy in the present moment can begin to shift your awareness toward moving ahead.

3) Be mindful of the way you feel. Again, this sounds simple. And yet, how many people wander through each day completely unaware of how they are feeling? It is amazing what happens when you can be so in tune with your feelings that you can catch yourself. That is, being able to catch yourself before you slide down that slippery slope of negative emotion. All too often, that is the lingering voice of the trauma or previous failure echoing. Being aware of how you feel — and catching that slide early — is a wonderful life skill. It helps you acknowledge with integrity what is really happening within you while redirecting your course of action toward something better. If you think about it, just choosing a feeling that is better than the negative feeling you are holding moves you one step closer to moving past that “thing” in your life. What a gift to give yourself!

And so… again… What’s holding you back? Whatever it is, the time is now to move ahead and Create the Life You Love!

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Move Ahead to the Blessing of Letting Go

Forgiveness
Forgiveness

I don’t know of a greater power in the universe than forgiveness. Any success coach will tell you that.

I’m serious.

I have had my share of tough times (haven’t we all). Some have come my way of some ill-intention or careless choices of others.

And some came my way from people who were just flat-out mean.

There is a certain satisfaction that comes from harboring that feeling you’ve been wronged. You can feel justified in it, somehow using it to explain anything and everything that hasn’t unfolded the way you wanted to in life. At least, that’s what my life coach tells me.

And you might be right.

But that will destroy you in the end.

I’ve heard it said this way: when you don’t forgive, it ends up being the poison you drink hoping someone else will die. In fact, it can be described as an act of self sabotage.

Forgiveness is a process that is about letting go and finding peace. If you were to consult a life coach, they would tell you that it isn’t about releasing someone or something for what they have done to you in the past (repentance on their end requires that). It is about releasing yourself from letting those things ruin your future as well.

You know forgiveness is an issue in your life when you can think of the person or event that happened and you get upset, angry and/or anxious. It’s time to stop this self sabotage.

That poison doesn’t taste too good, does it? Kind of reminds me of the old Mr. Yuck sticker. Perhaps we should bring that back and slap it on those areas of our lives we haven’t quite healed from yet.

Let it go, my friend. Let it go. Practice forgiveness. Practice release. Pay heed to the wisdom of a success coach and just let go.

You’ll find a whole new world of peace awaits…

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Playing Small Doesn’t Get You the Results You Want – Move Ahead!

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Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
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Where Did the Motivation GO?!? Move Ahead!!

http://www.dreamstime.com/-image16330567Are you tired of not getting the results you want?  Do you ever feel unmotivated?  You ever wish a coach was sitting right there, motivating you?

Have you ever had a long “To-Do” list lurking, but found yourself somehow wasting time on Facebook?  A few minutes turns into an hour and now you really don’t have any motivation to get going on that list.  Or how about wanting to lose weight, but found yourself eating a box of cookies.  Who can resist Girl Scout Cookie time, anyway?

We all know the feeling…

I – and so many others – can relate. Totally.

You have dreams.  There are things you want to accomplish.  You have this picture of the way you want your life to be.

Some days, you feel like you can conquer the world.  You are motivated and you can’t imagine being off that high.  Then, something happens… You lose your momentum and you’re not sure why.  You wonder what’s wrong with you.  After all, you have taken classes, read books, bought supplements and so many other things – only never to get LASTING results.

And there goes the motivation…

The truth is, there is nothing wrong with you.  You are actually very normal.  Trust me.  You may just need a coach who can help you get “un-stuck” from that unmotivated place.  You may need someone who can assist you in getting the results you want

So… if you are tired of not getting the results you want, why wait one second longer?  Get the help YOU need to get the results YOU want.  I want to help you get just that – results that last.  I want to equip you with the tools you need to have exactly that.

And the best part is, it is totally free.  Seriously.

Look… if you are like the rest of us, you have this inner dialogue that says you can’t have this or don’t deserve that.  I want to tell you how to get rid of that voice so it no longer dominates what you hear.  That voice is the voice of fear.  Fear never works.  It is a trap to keep you comfortable.  That is “comfortable” in the sense of staying stuck in a place you don’t like, but somehow feels “normal.”  Isn’t it amazing how sometimes normal feels miserable and yet we aren’t motivated to change?

It’s time for a new normal in your life.

It’s time for a coach.  It’s time for results.  It’s time for the motivation to come back.

Join me March 13th 11:00 PT/2:00 ET to start making lasting changes.

You have what it takes.  Trust me…

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
– Connect with her on Facebook here for her tips & inspirations.
– View her coaching packages that will empower, encourage and equip you… click here.
– Enjoy Kristi’s free downloadable ebook here or purchase her book here.
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Hit That ONE Degree in the New Year (Move Ahead!)

Remember the day you finally put up a shingle and launched out on your own with your, own company, mindset, and mission?  You were completely dedicated to the task, anxious with anticipation that the road ahead – while challenging – would bring the rewards for which you were looking.  You imagined “success” and went about doing whatever needed to be done to find success on that road.  And, truth be told, you have had success… and failure… and just about everything in between.  What you did not expect that first day you launched was the “in between,” especially as it relates to the ever-present feeling you have come to live with: the idea of constantly being overwhelmed.

Do you ever feel like you have so much going on you don’t have time to do anything?

Do you feel overwhelmed by the to-do list that just seems to be getting longer?

Do you feel so stressed you don’t feel like you can focus or get the things done like you used to?

That day you launched before “overwhelmed” set in seems a long, long time ago…

This is a very common feeling for business owners.  When your life is threatened by the never-ending to-do list (that is, the life you dreamed of living), you must address it and find a “new normal” in which to exist.  After all, isn’t the reason you got into this ownership gig in the first place is in part due to the idea of the life you wanted to live?  It is time to reclaim that life again.  It is time to understand the concept of “one degree.”  Do you know what temperature water boils at?  It is 212 degrees.  Why does that matter?  You   can try and try and try, but it is impossible to get water to boil at 211 degrees.  One degree makes a huge difference.  Without that one degree, you don’t get spaghetti, hard-boiled eggs or even jello.  One degree makes all the difference.

This concept applies to your life.  There is so much you have on your plate.  There are many things you want to do, change, achieve, and complete.  You have a list of items that you believe need to get done.  If you focus on the “amount,” you will forever be lost in that “overwhelmed” feeling that robs any joy you have left from your business and your life.  Instead, focus on one degree.  Ask yourself, “What is my one degree I need to focus on today?”  And then, do that… and nothing more.

Here’s how:

  • Look at your to-do list.  What is the most important thing that MUST be done today?  Get that one thing done today.
  • If your energy level isn’t there to take on that task, pick the one thing that you would most enjoy doing and do that to get your motivation back.
  • If you get your motivation back, then tackle the one thing that MUST be done.
  • In addition, identify one thing that would make you feel better about you (i.e. taking an hour to exercise, getting some rest, having lunch with a friend…).  Whatever that is, do that.  Remember… this is all about how you feel.  In essence, you are saying, “I am giving myself the freedom to take care of me so I can then take care of my business.”

You owning the one degree that demands your attention today adds up over time.  You will discover a life that is happier, more pleasing and successful as your “one degree” days unfold as the weeks go by.  You will be amazed at the difference it will make in your attitude and the way you feel.

After all, isn’t that what you want – to feel better and enjoy this business you own?

One degree is do-able.  You don’t have to do, change, achieve and complete everything.  One degree… that’s it.

Believe you can!

Kristi’s passion is to equip and encourage busy women to move easily to the next level of their life and dreams.
– Connect with her on Facebook here for her tips & inspirations.
– View her coaching packages that will empower, encourage and equip you… click here.
– Enjoy Kristi’s free downloadable ebook here or purchase her book here.
– To book Kristi as a speaker for your group or conference click here
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