There was a time when my son was into Super Heroes. His first idol was Buzz Light Year (can you tell what era he grew up in?). After he “matured” (his words) he moved on to the Justice League and the like. I quickly learned at the dinner table that the Justice League had its evil counterparts as well. Apparently, this was called “Bizzaro world” in which things were backward.
We adults partake in Bizzaro world on occasion as we indulge in a little self sabotage. Our “heroes” there are called “Criticism” and “Blame.” They are the opposite of our true Super Heroes, “Freedom” and “Peace.”
Here’s a little free advice from a life coach: ask yourself the following questions. Have you ever been critical of yourself?
Yeah… I already knew the answer to that. Me too.
Maybe I should ask, have you ever held onto a criticism of yourself for days, weeks, months? I hesitate to use “years” because I can feel the sting already.
Don’t you hate it when you are your own worst enemy?
Nothing works against us more than holding onto criticism and blame – and regularly participating in it; self sabotage is never the answer.
Let’s just call this out, okay? Here is exactly what criticism and blame do for us:
- They ruin intimacy in relationships.
- They remind us daily of the fear we have inside.
- They push people away.
- They reveal the insecurity we have about ourselves.
- They lead us to results we say we don’t want.
That’s quite a list. I’m inspired now!
Can we be honest and say that when we are critical of ourselves it is a sign that we are angry about something – but haven’t put words to it yet? That’s what needs to be addressed, rather than the parade of criticism and blame in which we tend to participate.
Here’s what your life coach would encourage you to do. Call them for what they are: bad habits that can become addictive if we aren’t careful.
Let me challenge you on this one. I want you to take one single day where you stop the criticism and blame game. Just one day. See what happens. I dare say that if you can’t do it, it is high time to find a life coach.
If you can, blessings on you. How did it make you feel?
It’s about time we stop living in Bizzaro world, it’s time to be our own success coach and get back to the REAL Super Heroes in our lives.
“To infinity and BEYOND!”
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